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If you are hoping to learn how to pick up really hot girls there are a couple of things that you should keep in mind. Well, there are a lot of things to keep in mind and sometimes it may seem like a very complicated balancing act but when all of the pieces fall into place the act of flirting with a really beautiful woman can be more thrilling than any other past time known to man.
The thrill of the chase and the rapport that is built when you become really skilled at flirting and picking up women is second to none when it comes to having a good time. One thing to keep in mind though is that these women are still human beings. It can be tempting to forget this fact but try to remember that and treat each and every woman with the respect that you would want someone to give to your own sister, ok?
Looking at a beautiful woman that you are trying to get close to as a human being first can actually help you to overcome many of the obstacles that many guys run into when trying to pick up women. By remembering that every woman that you come in contact with has many of the same fears that are common to all of us but especially attractive women can help you tremendously if you think about it.
First, she doesn’t want to be treated like a piece of meat or a trophy that is to be won. Nobody wants to be used or viewed as simply a goal that is to be attained. As attractive as a woman might be she still has the same fears and doubts that most women have. She has days when she feels fat and ugly and stupid. She has times when she is just sick of dating loser guys who are only looking for one thing and she dreams of finding one good guy that she can really get close to.
The fact is that you can be that guy. You can be the guy that gives her renewed hope in mankind and make that connection with some really beautiful women if you understand these simple facts and use them to your advantage.
For instance, you approach a really beautiful woman that you have been trying to get up the guts to talk to all night long. She sees you coming and you get that feeling that you’re going to be shot down but you decide to go through with approaching her anyhow. You introduce yourself and instead of coming out with one of the same lines that she has probably heard from every other guy all night long you say something like, “I’m going to be leaving soon but before I go I just had to tell you that you have the most beautiful smile that I have ever seen. When you’re happy and having a good time your smile is just amazing. Your eyes sparkle and you just look so happy. It’s not phony or forced. I am talking about that genuine smile that you get on your face when nobody is looking that I think is just the cutest thing in the world.”
That is your opening line and where you take it from there is up to you. Most women will be blown away by this complement and you can almost guarantee at least a good 5 to 10 minute conversation if you play your cards right. Of course, be prepared to walk away if you don’t get a response from her and give her ten minutes or so to feel bad if she acts like a jerk to you.
While this is only one little tip it is a very effective way to break the ice and start a conversation with attractive women no matter what the social situation. For further tips and tricks on picking up women you can pick up our free book on flirting with women and creating attraction.
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Have you suffered from hearing the words, “You’re a really nice guy, but I only like you as a friend,” from a woman who you would do (or may, infact have already done) just about anything and everything for- only to turn around and watch her date (or even chase) a guy who treats her like she is nothing special?
Then, you are probably a nice guy Women. Are you stumped wondering why she would date a guy who treats her bad when she could have you who would treat her like a princess and give her everything she wants?
I am going to reveal some things (you may call them reasons or secrets) for this kind of attitude from women to nice guys like yourself. You might not like them though.
“Nice” equates with boring and predictable. Check the dictionary and you will find other words like: pleasant, agreeable, satisfactory, and precise. All these words are average words- nothing exceptional, exciting, not even sexy. Women want to date a man who has much confidence, too passionate and exciting. Not you. Yea! Yea!! You are a nice guy, so sweet and always there for women. Or you are such a good guy- kind, thoughtful, generous, honest, loyal. Well, women will tell you that there is no chemistry between the two of you. You just don’t turn her on.
The fact is, Mr Nice Guy, you cannot bore a woman into feeling attracted to you or into wanting to date you. And as obvious as that sound, if you are one of those guys I described, that is exactly what you are trying to do. And it won’t work.
Please, understand that I am not suggesting that you mistreat women or disrespect them in any way. What I want to say is this: The nice guy cares too much, too soon. He has made the woman too important and too valuable and it shows in everything he says and does. He is too available, too eager to please, too accommodating, and he gives too much. By doing all these things, he has made himself appear desperate, insecure, and needy of this woman’s attention Wedding, affection, and approval- and he has stripped himself of any value in her eyes.
After all, if he is already doing and giving everything, without her doing or giving anything- why would she value him? She probably won’t. She is not going to value him any more than he values himself. What she is going to do is look for someone else, someone who she perceives as being more worthy, more confident, and more valuable.
This is how it works. Once you need something, or you want it too badly, you forfeit your strength and lose all power of negotiate. You are in a position of weakness and you are perceived as weak. Someone (or something) else is in control of you, the situation, and its outcome. Men in this situation appear to be anything but confident, strong and exciting.
The secret to why the cocky guy wins with women, over the nice guy, is that he is perceived as being a stronger, more confident guy with more value. How? He never invests everything- his entire being, ego, and self-worth in what one woman’s response or reaction to him is. He doesn’t gush with compliments; he isn’t always available; he doesn’t give too much; and he knows he isn’t going to die if a woman says “no” to him. More, his attitude is, yeah, I’d like to go out with you, but if I can’t, that’s OK- I’m a busy guy, with exciting things going on, and lots of other options.
Things that are easily acquired, obtained, or maintained, without any effort or sacrifice, lack value…….it is human nature.